Choosing

Lovely short post from Sara Hendren about choosing: “In middle age, looking back, it is the subtlest shift that shifts everything: from the late adolescent who says I really must choose the best path to the young adult who says I chose the best path, at least for me to, finally, simply: I chose. I chose and it might have been otherwise.” When I talk to my clients about making choices, I am wont to inquire into the reflexive language of making the best or right choice; such adjectives can usually only be applied in hindsight, with all the bias that perspective entails. Better to think about making a choice as a creative act, as an exercise of your agency and will, as a kind of small, brief, bright movement. The outcome of which you will never fully know.